11.3.09

asking the difference..

"Te, unsa diay kalainan sa true love ug commitment?
(what is the difference between true love and commitment?)

Sometimes I am still in disbelief with how my cousin, in his teen, has already grown to be asking such kind question. He's already a sophomore in college but then to me he's still just that young boy I used to know whose interests are only into riding bicycle, playing around his neighborhood or just watching DVD's. Though we only see each other during family gatherings or special occasions, I never failed to ask my cousins how are they doing in their studies. But this time, his little query brought me into a thought that he'd already grown up while I have aged.(LOL!)

At first he showed me a picture of a young lady in his phone and then asked me if the girl is cute. I plainly answered 'yeah..'. I was about to tease him but it seemed that the wind had blown my thought away. With that look of seriousness in his eyes he asked, "te, unsa diay kalainan sa true love ug commitment?".

I gave my view without a second thought. However, I was hoping that I answered him just right to at least open up an idea. Although I wasn't sure if i'd grabbed the exact views for that matter but then it's still good to know that he bothered to ask. As young adult, I still would love to hear them asking things like this. There's always a 'kilig' factor when talking about relationship whether it's a failure or a success. Love is the only niche where all just seems eternal and nobody is an exemption.

At times when I look back and ponder on it, I too come up and wander just what really there is between true love and commitment . And why some things still fail even when two people already venture into it. Reconstructing my thoughts over and over. And perhaps, just perhaps, it happens to every one of us, just like a young boy...still asking for the difference.

8 comments:

joan said...

ug unsa man sad kunuhay imong gitubag sa bata beh? kabalo sad diay ka? hahaha..

ev said...

mao na'y nakabahog tiil dha jo, kay utro pud ko wa kabalo!hehe!secret nalang to akong tubag para safe.:D

the donG said...

hehehe... love without commitment is senseless and commitment without love is just playing around.

Nance said...

... they go hand in hand, i believe.

Ash said...

Sweet!

jei said...

eve, its jei. i'm bouncing back.

ghee said...

nakakagulat ang thinking ng mga bata sa ngayon...

nagulat din ako kay ally kahapon,she asked me...."mom,sure ka na ba na panghabang buhay na ang relationship ninyo ni papa?" sabi ko,hopefully yes!maayos naman kami....

then sabi pa nya,paano kung mag divorce kayo,kanino ako sasama??

huh?saan kaya nya nakuha yung idean yun?

glad said...

love is a profound word na daghang meaning, basically pwede ka mu-love without commitment, same as commitment, pwede ka mu-commit without love (ambot kung kinsa pud kaha ang muhimo ani? kato gurong mga kapit sa patalim or in other words..they have their own reason).

Pero pag maminyo na ka tya, dapat uban jud ning duha pirme..love and commitment, especially sa atuang pinoy na sagrado ang kaminyuon. mawala na pud ng kilig tya pag maminyo na..hahaha but in your heart you know that u deeply care and love the person, bisan ang kilig nanglupad na sa window.

But you know, love and commitment = relationship nya it will always be a work in progress. Atimanonon kaau, mura ba'g nagbuhi ka og tree na kailangan nimo atimanon para dili mamatay.. ana pud ng gugma uy..sus na lang..lol.

mao ng nindot tya kung makakita ka og partner na di mureklamo kung mangutot ka..hahaha or mukatawa with u instead of insulting you..mga pakurat sa kinabuhi..

haay karon ra jud ko ka blog hop..ning resign ko sa akong work tya..mejo maselan akong pregnancy maong stay usa ko sa haus.