17.1.09

promissory note

Dear Ms. Eve,

I am sorry for the poor performance that I did yesterday during our class activity. I just went through one painful experience in my life that brought me such trauma. I hope you'd understand. I will try to do better next time.

Yours sincerely, Liz

Summer 2007 when I handled a bridge program in another city (some miles away from where I live) for the incoming college students. Days following our class activities, a young lady handed me a small piece of paper before that one session ended. The next morning, while everybody was out for a ten minutes break, I called her attention. She sat next to my table. I smiled at her and asked, "How are you?". Tears started to well up her eyes that got me speechless. She then started telling me about losing her boyfriend in an accident. I looked at her intently while trying to grasp some piece of advice like saying " you're still young and you still have your dreams waiting for you..just don't lose hope." In my mind, i know that what I was telling her had nothing to do with her youth. BUT it was the pain that she actually felt at that moment. I came to realize that I might also have given her my lousy or poor advice. However then about two days past her sharing, I was surprised to see her already full of eagerness as she stood performing for our class activity. And when summer class ended, saw her mingling with her new friends already laughing and giggling with them.

A thought came to me, "t's not the comforting words that she solicited from people around her, i know, BUT it's by just being there. And that a good relief doesn't have to be exactly words of wisdom from anybody in this planet....sometimes, people just need someone to listen."

11 comments:

Nance said...

How true, ev, people in that kind of situations really just want hugs, and somebody to talk to and listen, we don't even have to say anything...just being there is helps.

psyche said...

I happen to read your blog and I felt sad, I had the same experience. I think the only time that I had gotten better was when I sat right next to my friends crying and when were like all staring without saying a word. Just being there.

ghee said...

true Ev...no man is an island...we always need someone to talk to and listen to the scream of our hearts.

youre really a good writer,my friend...always full of passion and empathy...

miss you too!!

wITChy Boop said...

bes, very inspiring ni.
murag chocolate for the souls nga book.
NiCe.....
In life you'll never know what you are going to get. In my thoughts, it's how you've touched one's life esp during the time when she needs it most.

wITChy Boop said...

You are a very good teacher.

Mari said...

Sometimes what one needs is to let it out of its system...just like when one needed to give a big sigh.

kneeko said...

kakatuwa ang ginawa mo ev... ay maam ev pala :P

wITChy Boop said...

rich ba uroy bes...kaduha ra ko nimo no? trangkaso ko bes...hiluta ko beh..

ghee said...

Hello Ev!what keeps u busy?i hope you are well my friend...

hugs!

krystyna said...

You are very smart teacher and great psychologist, Ev!
Thanks for sharing!

dodong flores said...

That's right. It's already very comforting when you know someone is there for you when you're lonesome and weak...
This is a very inspiring story...