16.11.08

the Uninvited...

One time, a wedding banquet was held in a small town otherwise known as a "barrio". Family members, relatives and close friends were especially present as the important guests . But when it was already time to eat, they were surprised to have seen so many uninvited ones also dining with them. In spite of that, the food being served was good enough to feed everybody including the unexpected ones. However, the hosts still couldn't help but vehemently react against the uninvited after the occasion. They murmured, grumbled and despised over their presence.

Living in a barrio like in the Philippines, it normally occurs (so far in my personal observation) that even the uninvited ones would come and eat too every time a special event is being held . But since they are not expected as part of the celebration, they are tagged as "gatecrashers". In so many instances in my life when I'd been a witness of different kinds of events, so far, I often see the hosts not really having welcoming outlook over the uninvited ones other than feeling indignant of them.

Going back to our Christian faith, I wonder if this is how we are taught about our values towards people especially when we know for a fact that the uninvited ones are those that could hardly get a complete meal in a day or even rarely to eat delicious foods. They're the poor ones in our community. Within our churches, we feel like its such a wonderful attributes to be able to show generosity, kindness and compassion towards our neighbor. But it's so sad to realize that these attributions are only within our thoughts but not in our actions and motives. Sometimes our understanding and concern only limit to our family circle and close friends and only them can too benefit what we have. At times, I cower over the thought that I too may have been guilty over that fact. And that the question I have in mind for others may likely be the question I would want to raise for myself. But God didn't say, "Love your family and friends as your self". He said, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself".

Looking back to the wedding banquet, I remember my grandfather when he was still alive. And that each time his children (my aunts & uncles) would complain about their neighbors who shamelessly dined with them even when they're uninvited during special occasions, he would simply say,"ok lang na, nakakaon man tanan..(that's ok, as long as everybody has eaten)".

7 comments:

krystyna said...

Beautiful and very though-provoking post, Ev.
Reading your post I tried to imagine that I was a poor, hungry person. What kind of reaction from hosts I needed as an uninvited guest?

God didn't say, "Love your family and friends as your self". He said, "Love your neighbor as you love yourself".

Thank you Ev, good lesson!

Love & hugss

Mari said...

We do love our neighbors, but to a certain extent. I would share what I have, after I have fed my family...first.

Having said that, I, myself, have witnessed so many instances the uninvited, and I would at times be indignant myself, especially on special occasions. For fiestas invitations are casually given, and if they come or not, there's always the uninvited to fill in. And we welcome them. It's fiesta anyway.

Good post Ev...thought provoking.

My name is James said...

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dodong flores said...

Hi, EV. Very well said. Incidentally, I and my girlfriend will be going home to North Cotabato for our wedding next month. In one of our brainstorming session for our wedding preparation, we have agreed to include in the catering budget the so-called "gate-crashers," or the uninvited. We're aware such thing is very prevalent in the province. We have nothing against it. And I guess it's part of our Filipino culture. The culture is not bad itself, but it is up to us to be open and accept the fact that the practice is there and deal with it the positive way.
Ingon ana man gyod sa probinsiya. Kung dunay occasion, expect nga pakaonon nimo tanan, dili lang diri nga barrio pero hasta sab sa silingan nga barrio...

A blessed weekend to you... ;)

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James said...

Hehehe. However wacky the occasion is, which I think fitting only. I think it's a privilege both to you and you uninvited guest. It's your privilege to show goodwill and introduce your family. For them it's a privilege as well besides the good meal because they would know you and your family's nature. It is perhaps a test of how good not just as a kind of host you are but how warm you and your family can be on the present occasion. But of course, bringing the occasion, I as an invited guest maybe, might as well be kind enough at least to offer a toast for the bride and groom - a abundant and blissful marriage, merry sex life and a super-duper friendly in-laws. :D A! Re: ur uninvited guest, you might want to ask them to offer the couples a song or dance, that way, you'll get your revenge - in a way. :D Hehehe. Xiao! Happy Honeymoon... just wow!

Nance said...

ev,
Your Lolo was a gem. I believe that when you give, you get something back ten folds. i really don't mind uninvited guests as long as there is enough food for everyone. that being said, what bothers me are those who shamelessly bring their own containers and fill it before the party is over.

Dodong,
you're getting married? well, well, well, congratulations and best wishes are in order then!