29.11.06

Tolerance.....

Lately,I've been battling with my relationship with my students. I found myself in a situation wherein I have to be even more strong for them. Seeing my young girl student so anxious with her low academic performance, teary-eyed when she could hardly memorize a piece, banging her head and slapping her face believing that her dullness makes her feel stupid. While, my young boy, so confident with his academic perfomance believing that he's always right until we'd heated into an argument. He has become so at ease with his relationship with me that would sometimes lead him to unknowingly show signs of disrespect. And it's tough... For quite some years I have been dealing with children of different personalities... but this has been my first time to have felt less effective in dealing with kids not academically but emotionally. Children nowadays have grown to be defiant and aggressive about almost everything...and it's when we have to be even more understanding for them.

I often hear people say that the most important and even hard things in all forms of relationship are faithfulness and honesty. Well I say,let's include tolerance. But I also say that it's hard...because tolerance includes accepting the most unacceptable characteristics of the one you love. It's when you realize that you have to bear with another person's temper without completely losing your sense of pride as a person. You realize that you can never change the way he/she is according to what's simply comfortable and ideal for you...all because along with loving entails sacrifice, and along with this sacrifice entails genuine feelings for people. We simply don't tolerate people we care for, we impose discipline..but then after all's been said and done..you will go back to the same old rule....i tell you...because you value these people...because you love your wife or husband..because you love your kids...because you love your friends..because you love...you learn to tolerate because that's what loving your relationship with people tells you to.

3 comments:

ghee said...

hayy Ev,i can relate so well...

yest,i got a situation.all about a 5 yrd old girl,shes a smart girl and very polite,and she loves me sooo much that she wants to please me all the time.I was surprised with her behaviour...and it tested me a little,i didnt wanna tolerate that kinda of act coz it wud be unfair with others who have shown her misconduct...at the end, i had no choice..i had to be nicer coz she didnt stop crying,screaming almost that the whole class was annoyed by her...

ay naku,napakwento tuloy ako rito..yung nga,anyways,shes just a small kid,so i asked the opinioin of her friends,and we decided to give her a turn..

na realize ko,this girl has a tough mind,sana pati na ang mga junior high ay may ganitong trait para di mauwi sa suicidal,usung uso dito Ev,yes,halos araw arw,ganun ang news...imbes na maturn off ako sa bata,humanga pa akong lalo sa kanya,at bago sha umuwi,kinausap ko sha why i got mad...and she understood it,I felt it with all my heart...hayy..

we need more strength and considerations...marami pang darating,i know it...

Ann said...

Mahirap din talaga ang work nyo eh no, sa dami ng bata at syempre iba-iba ang upbringing nyan lalo yung mga only child siguro na spoiled brat.

May favoritism ba talaga sa mga ganyan?

razzy said...

i love this post..

nakakarelate ako in a different view. It really help me in my situation right now, the second paragraph..