How many of us are too afraid to express our true feelings? And then, on the later part, we regret why we aren't able to do so..when it's already too late and there's no more chance of letting the person know...
When i was a kid, i didn't know the difference between "showing" what you feel and "saying" what you feel. I wasn't brought up mushy and expressive about my feelings. Seeing life in a big struggle and seeing my parents working very hard to sustain our needs, the showing of affection for one another as family is not our big concern. It didn't matter whether we have time together for a closer relationship, but it did matter, that though my parents were often out for work, there must be something to be set on the table. But when i was already growing up and saw how my cousins show their affetion to their parents by kissing on the cheeks each time their dad are home from work and finding them being able to say too easily what they feel , I started to feel envious and grow questioning why it's just too lousy and hard for me to express the same way to my family. When all i can do is show them importance in some conventional way..when it's not "corny". But i do have regrets...only when five years ago, my brother passed away...that's why the song "i can't cry hard enough" connotes such a deeper meaning on me.
Too many relationships have crambled for one simple reason...romantism drifted into oblivion.
One time, i saw a wedding guest book (dated years ago) already junked by our neighbor. I opened some pages and found meaningful messages of good luck and prayers from relative and friends ,for the success of their marriage. I asked my friend why it was thrown away, and it made me sad a bit when my friend said, "Ev, i tried gave it back for they might have just misplaced it, but the wife said,"what is that book for?we can't pawn it anyway!". I was stammered. For this, i sense one obvious reason that the most challenging stage in every married couple's life is when they've reached "boredom"at the height of their relationship. Could it be possible? But of course! For so many possible reasons, i know one--- the death of a romance.
So when you express your love, I say," don't say you love the person because.....but rather, love the person beyond reasons...a love that not limited by time... a love that's boundless...so that when all that your love can offer would one day be stolen by circumstance or old age(though i hope not!)....you two would still vow to love each for the same reason! Well, it reminds me of the movie"The Notebook". How i love it!"